Episode 04: When Desires Go Wrong | The Icebergology of Life with Rob Jackson

Why do we keep doing what we hate? Why does the same behavior keep returning no matter how many times we confess it, resolve against it, or try to stop?The answer isn't weak willpower. The answer is desire — and it's operating below the waterline, out of sight, long before any behavior is chosen.In this episode, Rob Jackson unpacks two distinct ways desire goes wrong: disordered desire, which misdirects the heart toward the wrong source, and deceitful desire, which lies about what it will deliver. Drawing from Romans 7 and Ephesians 4, Rob walks through how these desires form, why suppression never works, and what it actually looks like to renounce a desire in the name of Christ — not as an act of despair, but as an act of spiritual authority.What We Cover in This EpisodeWhy the behavior that keeps coming back almost always has a desire underneath itThe difference between disordered desire and deceitful desire — and why confusing them produces shame instead of transformationHow legitimate needs become disordered when they don't get met through legitimate meansWhy every desire of the flesh overpromises and underdelivers — every timeRomans 7:15 — Paul's honest confession of two wants operating simultaneouslyThe critical distinction between suppression, renunciation, and transformationWhat it means to renounce a desire in the name of Christ — and why that is an act of spiritual authority, not defeatThree practical steps for what to do with a desire you didn't chooseGot a question for Rob? If something from this season stirred something in you or raised a question beneath the surface, send it here: https://www.icebergology.com/podcast-questionsThe Iceberg of Life Formation Spotify Playlist https://open.spotify.com/playlist/3DE1iasq5FaJRPwDJUO9R8?si=g6BsLajDSEO63QpsTOXMQQKey Quotes"Disordered desire is not always immoral — but it is always dysfunctional. It drives us to seek in the wrong places what can only be found in one place.""Suppression pushes the desire down. Renunciation brings it into the light and hands it over.""What you can name, you can bring to God. What stays unnamed stays in the dark — and what stays in the dark keeps running your life without your permission.""Any desire that does not form us into the image of Christ must be renounced in the name of Christ."Scripture ReferencesRomans 7:15, 17Romans 8:5Ephesians 4:22Galatians 5Free ResourceDownload the free Below the Waterline PDF guide — a clear, simple map of the Iceberg Model™ of Christian Spiritual Formation: icebergology.com/modelConnect with RobWebsite: icebergology.comTake the next stepThe Daily Watch journal: https://www.icebergology.com/the-daily-watchAbiding in the Vine journal: https://www.icebergology.com/abiding-in-the-vineFree discovery call with Rob: https://icebergologycoachingacademy.practicebetter.io/#/68fc39c4b516ff2118673f0a/bookings?s=695391cf671aa96aa82dc733&step=dateInvite Rob to speak: https://www.icebergology.com/invite-rob-jackson