Episode 071: Control? Ha!

Becky and Diana delve into the concept of control and why we try so hard to stay in control.  It's all about trust. Trusting others, yes, but mostly it's about trusting ourselves. There is a false sense of safety and security when we think we're in control. People want certainty. Boundaries teach people how to treat you. No matter how hard you try you can't change other people. Control actually limits your possibilities. When you exert control over others, you don't give them a chance to express who they are and learn from the mistakes they might make. If there is a controlling person in your life, remember it is their problem. You are only responsible for your responses. Always needing to be in control can be very lonely. Positive reinforcement can help combat controlling people because it gives them the validation they need.