Episode 088: The Woman Who Disappeared: When Keeping the Peace Costs You Yourself

When was the last time someone asked what you wanted - and you actually knew the answer? Many women have said "whatever you want" so many times that they have forgotten what THEY want. Their preferences are buried under decades of accommodation. Researchers call it self-silencing - and three decades of studies show it predicts depression, lower relationship satisfaction, and a quiet kind of identity loss that creeps in without warning.In this episode, we unpack what self-erasure actually looks like, why it is so different from people-pleasing or boundary struggles, and what Psalm 139:14 reveals about the self God designed you to be. You will walk away with:• A clearer understanding of why "easy-going" can quietly become "gone"• The research-backed connection between silencing yourself and the exhaustion you cannot explain• A fresh perspective on what "fearfully and wonderfully made" includes beyond your bodySCRIPTURE HIGHLIGHT: Psalm 139:14 (NIV)Research note: This episode references self-silencing research by Dana Crowley Jack (1992), validated across 50+ studies and reviewed in Sex Roles (2026), and Self-Determination Theory (Ryan & Deci).Ready for your next step?FREE 5-Minute Daily Reset (instant download):YourNextBestStep.com Weekly encouragement + practical tips:YouTube @CoachJanetJ Instagram: @janetjjaecksIf this episode resonated with you, please follow/subscribe and share with a friend who needs their next step.  One small step. One day at a time.