Episode 10 - The Power of Curiosity

Chelsea and Lisa talk about how important it is to be "curious instead of furious." They visit topics covered in Chelsea Wakefield's book, The Labyrinth of Love" related to curiosity.  They cover topics like: The uselessness of getting stuck in a "what happened" argument. Understanding our partner's Love Languages - paying attention to what speaks love in THEIR world.   Shadow boxing - when we get caught in circular conflicts where we are just reacting to our partner's reactivity, and we are both upset about something outside of our conscious awareness (phew! kinda deep!) How it helps to think about having two "inner cast of characters" so that we can figure out how to love each other well or avoid getting caught in battles between one person's "inner teen" ("you are not the boss of me!") and the other person's "critical parent."     How our nighttime dreams can inform us about emotional dynamics that are going on in the underbelly of our relationship. How to create an "exit ramp" off the conflict highway.