Episode 10: When Good News Doesn't Feel "Good"

When Good News Starts Feeling Less Good: Navigating "Good news" in Adoption, Surrogacy and IVFIn this episode, Matt and Andrew share their personal journey through adoption and surrogacy, exploring how their perception of good news has evolved over a lengthy, often challenging process. They discuss emotional resilience, managing expectations, and the balance between hope and caution, providing insights for anyone facing similar uncertainties.Key topics:The emotional rollercoaster of adoption and surrogacy journeysHow good news can begin to feel less exciting over timeThe impact of social media on perceptions of pregnancy and parenthoodManaging excitement and fear simultaneouslyThe importance of balancing hope with cautionDifferences in processing positive updates in complicated fertility journeysCommon fears and societal pressures in pregnancy and fertilityThe role of community, sharing, and vulnerability in copingPractical ways to handle good news without diminishing genuine joyThe influence of history and human evolution on our perceptions of pregnancy risksTimestamps:00:00 - Welcome and episode overview: navigating hope and disappointment02:05 - How the fertility and adoption journey shifts perspectives on good news03:25 - Reliving initial moments of joy amidst setbacks04:46 - The psychological effects of repeated disappointments05:44 - Managing risk and hope early in the adoption process07:16 - The control and unpredictability in surrogacy and adoption08:59 - How social media amplifies pregnancy joy and pressures11:37 - The historical context of pregnancy risks throughout human history12:36 - Social media’s portrayal of perfect pregnancies and its impact13:06 - The shared experiences of fertility struggles within communities14:37 - Holding back excitement: personal strategies and shared experiences15:01 - The emotional toll of multiple adoption setbacks16:15 - Anticipation versus defensive detachment in preparing for parenthood17:50 - Finding a healthy middle ground in celebrating milestones19:35 - How to process good news today: practical tips20:16 - Navigating emotional tensions within relationships during waiting periods21:38 - Shifting personal approaches to handling good news22:31 - The importance of staying present and grounded24:17 - Recognizing that pregnancy, historically, has always been challenging25:36 - Emphasizing that there’s no right or wrong way to feel or act26:36 - The role of small, no-regret decisions early in pregnancy27:16 - Encouragement to embrace authentic emotions without guilt27:47 - Wrapping up: encouragement for all in the waiting journeyResources & Links:Waiting With Love WebsiteConnect with Matt & Andrew:InstagramFacebookTikTokYouTube