Episode 11 | Breaking the Cycle: Generational Trauma & Parenthood | Velveth Schmitz, CEO of HireBetter, Survivor of Generational Trauma, Mom of Teenage Daughters

Disclaimer - This episode contains profanity, references to domestic violence, eating disorders, and sexually explicit language Today's episode explores breaking the cycle of generational trauma, best described as a cycle of trauma that extends from one generation to the next. According to Health.com, generational trauma can begin when a group or family experiences a traumatic event that causes economic, cultural, and familial distress. In the case of today's guest, Velveth Schmitz, domestic violence was the cornerstone of her family's generational trauma, extending back nearly seven generations. Velveth, however, successfully broke the cycle of violence in her family; a story she shares with awe-inspiring vulnerability, transparency and grace.  Now a CEO, former Mayor, fiercely loyal friend, wife, and mother raising two daughters, Velveth is a force to be reckoned with. She is beautifully open and intentional in her description of her predecessors' strength in the face of domestic challenges, as well as the inherited instincts and cellular trauma she had to overcome. While Velveth's love for her family and their experiences is raw and pure, she consciously chose the opposite path in raising her two now-teenage daughters. Velveth shares how she and her husband, Chuck, decided on their parenting philosophy and how they stay in sync during the many trying times we all face as parents. Given Velveth and I are both mothers of daughters, we also have a frank discussion around body image, consent, and sexual education. I couldn't be more thankful for this amazing conversation, so get out your notepads. Velveth's perspective, tips, and resources on overcoming generational trauma -- no matter how minor -- and raising well-adjusted, empowered young women is invaluable.  Resources: 1) Generational Trauma It Didn't Start With You - Mark Wolynn The Body Keeps The Score - Dr. Bessel Va Der Kolk My Grandmother's Hands - Rasmaa Menakem 2) Parenting Unconditional Parenting - Alfie Kohn Non-Violent Communication - Marshall Rosenberg Giving the Love That Heals - Harville Hendrix & Helen Hunt How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk - Faber and Maslich The Whole Brain Child - Daniel J. Seigel 3) Velveth Schmitz LinkedIn