Episode 12: Navigating the Gains and Losses – Part 2: When Help Becomes a Hurdle

Send us Fan MailIn this follow-up to Part 1, Janna and Larry continue their heartfelt conversation about the everyday realities of living—and thriving—with Alzheimer’s. While Part 1 focused on recognizing both the gains and losses that come along this journey, Part 2 digs deeper into an unexpected truth: sometimes help isn’t really help at all. From hanging clothes to loading the dishwasher, they share how small acts of “help” can unintentionally accelerate loss of skills—and how choosing when to step back can actually slow the trajectory of decline. They talk candidly about the tension between efficiency and independence, the emotional moments that come with relearning tasks, and the importance of adapting routines to keep life both manageable and meaningful. You’ll also hear about: How to recognize when helping may actually foster dependence The role of patience, humor, and faith in navigating daily challenges Practical adjustments that preserve skills and dignity Why partnership—not overprotection—matters most in care relationships This episode is as much about love and teamwork as it is about Alzheimer’s—reminding us that thriving together means sharing the load in a way that lifts both people up. If you haven’t listened to Part 1 yet, start there to get the full context before diving into this insightful and inspiring continuation. Link to a study related to This Podcast The development of the Promoting Independence In Dementia (PRIDE).  Intervention to enhance independence in dementia. PMC Be sure to go to our website at alzheimersthriver.org to learn more about Larry and Janna's adventures.