Episode 124: How to Spot a Hijackal with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler

Catherine is here today with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler. As a relationship consultant, mediator, speaker and author, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler knows as – The Relationship Help Doctor, provides urgent and ongoing care for relationships in crisis. Her mission is to help people stop tolerating abuse. Dr. Shaler focuses on helping the partners, exes, and adult children of the relentlessly difficult people she calls “Hijackals®.” She offers strategies for dealing with the constant uncertainty and jaw-dropping behaviours of toxic people. Author of sixteen books including Escaping the Hijackal Trap and Stop! That’s Crazy-Making! How to Stop Playing the Passive-Aggressive Game. She is also the host of three podcasts: The Relationship Help Show, Emotional Savvy, and, Save Your Sanity! Dr. Shaler asks what’s going on in your relationship? Do these comments or thoughts feel familiar? “I can’t put my finger on what’s wrong anymore and feel like I am going crazy.”  “Nothing I do is right or good enough.”  “It’s always my fault…even when it isn’t.”  “I’m so tired of the drama, the outbursts, the attacks, and the cycles.” Dr. Shaler knows it’s very debilitating to feel like you never do it “right”, or well enough. That every time you become hopeful that you can find honesty and safety, you are taking a risk that seldom turns out to improve communication or resolve conflicts. She knows this because she lived through it, too. It leaves you feeling exhausted, anxious, and uncertain. Unfortunately, you might also feel guilty, like you just didn’t do enough, give enough, or be enough. And, that’s not true! Find Out More About Dr. Rhoberta Shaler Dr. Shaler’s Website Connect with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler on Facebook Follow Dr. Shaler on Twitter @rhobertashaler Dr. Rhoberta Shaler on Instagram @drrhobertashaler It’s now time to tune into this very brave and inspirational woman – The Relationship Help Doctor. Enjoy!