Episode 129 - Nonviolent communication aspects, raising children compassionately

Guests Brett from http://schoolsucksproject.com and Daniel from http://warisimmoral.comTaking what other people do and say personally (rather than just as tragic expressions of unmet needs) contributes to the violent communication processAttributing the cause of our feelings to things outside ourselves prevents us from taking responsibility for our feelingshttp://logicallearning.net/ResponsibilityForFeelings.mp3With nonviolent communication, you separate your observation of what the other person (or yourself) did or said from your evaluation of it; unsolicited evaluations foster antagonismhttp://www.cnvc.org/Training/NVC-Conceptsclassic scene from Bee Movie posted on http://marcstevens.netStill wasting time voting? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=esO2WJZxpYYThroughout history people have used morality as a weapon to get others to do things, which stems from how parents deal with their children--in which battles of the wills are commonFocusing on feelings and needs rather than moral judgments fosters understanding and compassion; in both parenting and education, this process is commonly lacking, and vital needs, such as respect, are neglectedRaising Children Compassionately by Marshall Rosenberghttp://www.naturalchild.org/marshall_rosenberg/rcc.htmlThe labeling of others, in addition to being disabling, also leads us to being disconnected from needs for authenticity and respectIt's not the job of parents to "make them behave"; violence begets violenceThe need for autonomy needs to be fulfilled bumper music "We're All To Blame" by Sum 41 http://www.sum41.com/ to comment, please go to http://completeliberty.com/magazine/category/91697