Episode 13: Why do some conversations escalate before you even realise what’s happening?

In this episode, Eve explores the powerful role triggers play in difficult conversations and why reactions in the moment are often shaped by experiences that happened long before the conversation even began.Many people assume they are “overreacting” or “too sensitive.” In reality, the nervous system is doing exactly what it has learned to do: protect you. A tone of voice, a phrase, or even a look can activate old fears and defensive patterns before you’ve had time to think.Eve explains how these hidden triggers quietly influence the way we communicate, whether that shows up as shutting down, becoming defensive, trying to control the conversation, or avoiding it altogether.Drawing on over 25 years of experience in psychotherapy and coaching, Eve shares how recognising your triggers is the first step toward staying calm, clear and constructive in conversations that matter most.Because when you understand what’s being activated beneath the surface, you can respond with intention rather than reaction.If you’ve ever walked away from a conversation thinking “That didn’t go how I wanted it to,” this episode will help you understand why and what to do differently next time.Learning to recognise your triggers is not about blame.It’s about gaining the tools to communicate with clarity, confidence and calm even when the conversation feels difficult.NOTES:Visit Eve Stanway’s websiteIf you need help now or you like to chat you can book a call here.Thank you for listening. If you would like to comment or share a difficult conversation topic for a future podcast, please message me.🫶✨️Connect with Eve StanwayIf this episode has resonated with you, the conversation does not have to stop here.Website: www.evestanway.co.ukEmail: [email protected]: @evestanwayFacebook: Eve StanwayLinkedIn: Eve StanwayYouTube: @evestanwayTikTok: @evestanwaySubstack: Eve StanwayIf you are navigating separation and want to approach it with clarity rather than conflict, visit www.evestanway.co.ukDare to Speak: Difficult Conversations That Change Everything is hosted by Eve Stanway, Difficult Conversations Expert and creator of the Listen, Speak, Lead Framework.Eve is the author of Dare to Speak: Navigate Difficult Conversations with Confidence and Clarity, available at www.evestanway.co.ukComing September 2026: Dare to Listen: The Hidden Years, Difficult Conversations with Young Adults in Your Life.