Episode 146: Blessons of a Breakup with Lindsey Ellison

Lindsey Ellison returns to the show this week. You know her as the author of MAGIC Words: How To Get What You Want From a Narcissist. She has a new book out called Blessons of a Breakup. In this episode, both Lindsey and I share some of our unique experiences with healing from trauma, codependency, or co-addictive relationships. We also explore love addiction and being love avoidant, including what it is, and how it manifests. For those of you new to Lindsey, she is a relationship coach and founder of Start Over Coaching, Inc. She helps people navigate their divorce or break-up and also helps people break free from narcissistic abuse.  Our conversation was healing and beautiful for me; I hope it is for you as well.  Show Highlights Lindsey shares a personal story of resurfaced codependency and the emotional triggers that manifested. (5:23) What Lindsey learned at The Meadows and how it informed her choice to break up with someone she truly loved due to their copendendent and co-addictive relationship. (11:00) Being unprepared for the pain of a breakup and in deep pain of grief. (14:32) Love addiction: what it is and how it shows up in relationships. (15:39) A love addict's greatest fear is abandonment and an underlying fear of intimacy. (18:03) Love addiction versus love avoidance. (18:38) Why Lindsey says the spiritual process matters to the healing of a broken heart. (32:11) "Our ego is the CEO of all things from the past. Our spirit is only right now." (41:38) Why Lindsey wrote her book Blessons of a Breakup. (42:44) Learn more about Lindsey: Lindsey Ellison is a relationship coach and founder of Start Over Coaching, Inc. She helps people navigate their divorce or break-up and also helps people break free from narcissistic abuse. Her newest book, MAGIC Words: How to Get What You Want from a Narcissist, offers a step-by-step formula on how to create a communication plan and provides a script of empowering "magic" words that can neutralize the power struggle.    Resources & Links:Resources can also be found at: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/blessons-of-a-breakup-with-lindsey-ellison Private Coaching with Kate Anthony Lindsey's websiteLindsey on Facebook Lindsey on Twitter Lindsey on YouTube