Episode 15: Let's Unpack the Hidden Dynamics of Goal Achievement

Send us Fan MailEver wondered why our New Year's resolutions fizzle out despite our best intentions? Discover the underlying factors that can make or break your goals as we explore the nuances of clarity, motivation, and accountability. Together, we'll examine how viewing your objectives through a relational lens can uncover unhealthy ties with yourself or external influences. Ask yourself why change is necessary and re-evaluate past methods to unlock the true potential of your aspirations. Learn why mental health is more than just a buzzword but a pillar of sustained motivation and how regular check-ins can be your secret weapon in achieving meaningful growth.As we close the curtain on season one of the Relationship Blueprint, I want to extend my deepest gratitude for your unwavering support. Overcoming procrastination and perfectionism was no small feat, but your encouragement has been a beacon throughout this journey. I'm thrilled to share that season two, set for 2025, promises even more engaging conversations with guests who will help us all harness the power of connection. Let's continue this journey together, celebrating our past successes and anticipating a year brimming with joy, self-discovery, and empowerment. Thank you for being an essential part of this community.Show Notes and Transcript: Episode 15: Let's Unpack the Hidden Dynamics of Goal Achievement The research says that our success can be impacted by four factors:1.    The clarity of our goal2.    Our own motivation3.    Accountability4.    MotivationWhat if we approach this year with a new perspective? I’d like us to look at our needs and wants from a relational perspective. Let’s begin with factor number one. Can we get clear about our goal? 1.    Is there a relationship I have with something or someone that I want to explore and possibly change?2.    Identify a relationship where you are struggling. Is this a relationship with yourself, an important personal relationship, work, food, alcohol, drugs, etc.?3.    Write a statement of clarity. My relationship with _____ isn’t healthy for me. 4.    Why do I want this change in my life? 5.    Do I believe I am worthy of this change? 6.    What have I already tried in the past to make these changes?7.    Have I had success in the past? 8.    What was my strategy that worked? 9.    Is it possible that I might have stop doing something? 10.    Am I willing to let something go? 11.    Can I tolerate the distress caused by making these changes?When doing a mental health self-assessment jot done the things you have accomplished in the last year. Be specific. It’s important to celebrate our successes! Include the small and the big things. Ask a friend to help you if you are stuck. They will often remember things you might dismiss. I encourage you to use a journal to record your responses to the following questions:1.     What have been my big and small accomplishments of 2024?2.     How content am I with my current situation?3.     What is one area I want to focus on for the next month?4.     What is my anxiety level about this issue? 10 high or 1 low5.     What about this issue causes be to feel depressed?6.     How many times a week do I struggle with my mood and daily functioning?7.     What brings me joy? What keeps me from doing more of this? Where can I find time in my week to schedule joy?8.     Do I practice self-care? Do I know what that looks like for me? What is one way I can commit to sSupport the showThank you for joining me today on the Relationship Blueprint. Remember,  don't let life happen to you. You can be the architect of your relationships. So join me next time on the Relationship Blueprint; Unlock Your Power of Connection.Contact Colleen at [email protected] for questions or to be a guest on the show!