Episode 150 - Unconditional parenting, part twelve

In this episode I cover the second half of Chapter Nine: Choices For Children in the book Unconditional Parenting: Moving From Rewards And Punishments To Love And Reason by Alfie Kohnhttp://www.unconditionalparenting.com/up/Taking responsibility is greatly diminished in those who administer punishments, since they commonly blame the disobedient person who's being punished as "bringing it on themselves" or "choosing" to be punishedWhenever what we want comes across as a demand (rather than a request), we tend to pay a price psychologically and socially in terms of getting our needs metAs humans, we all have the same needs: http://www.cnvc.org/Training/needs-inventoryAnd feelings are universal as well:http://www.cnvc.org/Training/feelings-inventoryThe all-too-commom process of parents telling children what to do and when to do it, such as eating and sleeping, greatly hinders the process of children learning to take responsibility for their own basic functions as growing human beings; and, it doesn't meet their needs for respect and autonomy (among other needs)Check out the facets of whole-life unschooling...http://www.unschooling.info/ ; http://www.unschooling.org/ ; http://www.holtgws.com/whatisunschoolin.htmlDayna Martin: What is Radical Unschooling?http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kiHyzS26N0YIan Freeman's thorough overview of the NH CD liberty activism http://freekeene.com/2011/09/03/ians-blog-from-jail-3/bumper music "Sunrise" by trance[]controlhttp://www.trancecontrol.com/to comment, please go to http://completeliberty.com/magazine/category/91697