Episode 154: Boundaries: Loving Others Without Losing Who You Are with Lysa TerKeurst

Do you ever wonder if boundaries are unloving or selfish? Do you have trouble deciding if it’s time to bring closure or continue to work on a relationship? What does the Bible even say about relationships when they become unsafe or unsustainable? Then, once you discern it's time for change, how do you set boundaries? Based on our stories, our wirings, and our theology, we can get confused and stuck - and even lead others to paralysis.  Our guest today, Lysa TerKeurst, deeply understands these hard questions in the midst of relational struggles. But after thousands of hours of counseling intensives and extensive theological research that transformed the way she defines healthy relationships, Lysa is now more committed than ever to loving people well without losing the best of who she is.    Lysa TerKeurst is president of Proverbs 31 Ministries and the author of more than twenty-five books, including  It’s Not Supposed to Be This Way and the #1 New York Times bestsellers Forgiving What You Can’t Forget and Uninvited. Her new release, coming this month (Nov 2022) is titled, Good Boundaries and Goodbyes; Loving Others Without Losing The Best of Who You Are.  As president of Proverbs 31 Ministries, Lysa and her team have led millions to make their walk with God an invigorating journey through Encouragement For Today daily devotions, the First 5 Bible study app, online Bible studies, The Proverbs 31 Ministries Podcast, social media channels, speaker/writer training, and more. Each year, Lysa speaks at more than 40 events across North America. She has a passion for equipping women to share their stories for God’s glory through Proverbs 31 Ministries’ annual She Speaks Conference and through the ministry’s membership site for writers, COMPEL Training.   Lysa has 5 grown kids with families of their own, and 3 beautiful grandchildren.    To connect with Lysa TerKeurst, visit: ONLINE  https://lysaterkeurst.com/   SOCIAL   Facebook - @LysaTerKeurst Twitter - @LysaTerKeurst Instagram - @LysaTerKeurst   BOOKS   New Release - Good Boundaries and Goodbyes; Loving Others Without Losing The Best of Who You Are (Nelson Books, imprint of Thomas Nelson, 11/8/2022) https://www.p31bookstore.com/collections/lysa-terkeurst-books-and-bible-studies Being a leader isn’t easy. Being a wholehearted leader means learning how to have healthy boundaries and modeling that to all who follow you - from your kids, to employees, to your followers online. If you want to know more about how to grow as a wholehearted leader and learn more about our resources, check out www.livingwholehearted.com or follow us on instagram @living_wholehearted.   And for all you moms of daughters, this very topic is one of the reasons Terra started Courageous Girls. We have groups of moms and daughters gathering all over the world as moms are intentionally pursuing their daughter’s heart and helping her understand God’s word and how it applies to building healthy relationships with God, herself and others. This conversation is woven throughout those lessons starting from second grade through high school. You can learn more at www.mycourageousgirls.com.  Subscribe to the #living_wholeheartedpodcast anywhere you find your podcasts  To connect with Jeff and Terra Mattson and Living Wholehearted, go to: Instagram @TerraMattson @Living_Wholehearted @MyCourageousGirls #living_wholeheartedpodcast  #shrinkingtheintegritygap Facebook @MyCourageousGirls @WeAreLivingWholehearted Websites LivingWholehearted.com TerraMattson.com MyCourageousGirls.com MyCourageousBook.com   Resources Shrinking the Integrity Gap  https://davidccook.org/shrinking-integrity-gap-book/ Shrinking the Integrity Gap e-Course  https://www.livingwholeheartedstore.com/e-courses Courageous: Being Daughters Rooted in Grace https://mycourageousgirls.com/shop/p/book-courageous-being-daughters-rooted-in-grace Dear Mattsons  https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLdPzQ_cUwCbRc-MQ40KL3a6ze06CiY38l Helping Moms Raise Confident Daughters  http://cpguides.org/