Episode 17: Program Design & Perverse Incentives – You Get What You Reward

Most parents think they're rewarding good behavior…but what if they're actually training their kids to lie, sneak, and hide problems instead? In this episode, Brian and Dave break down how "well-intentioned" rules and rewards often create the exact opposite of what we want. From the famous Cobra Effect in British India to Brian's real-life experience as a safety manager, we explore Goodhart's Law and why your parenting "program" might be backfiring. We discuss: • Why zero-tolerance rules often train kids to become excellent liars • How reward systems can destroy trust and honesty • The difference between controlling your kids and designing better incentives • Practical ways to reward honesty, early problem-reporting, and real responsibility If you've ever wondered why your rules aren't working the way you expected, this episode will make you rethink everything.  What's one rule or reward in your house that might be creating a perverse incentive?  New episodes every Thursday at 8:00 PM Mountain Time. 👉 All Episodes & Show Notes: https://www.unhingeddadspod.org/video... 👉 Support the Show: https://ko-fi.com/unhingeddadspodcast #UnhingedDads #Fatherhood #Parenting #PerverseIncentives #GoodhartLaw #DadLife