Episode 17: Why am I Always Trying to Fix Everything (Instead of Just Helping)

My youngest daughter taught me years ago: "I needed you to help, Daddy. Not take over." Apparently, I'm still learning that lesson.This week I'm talking about the pattern of trying to fix everything for everyone - and how it's rooted in anxiety. The need to control outcomes, to manage situations, to make myself valuable by solving problems - that's all anxiety trying to keep me safe. But it doesn't keep me safe. It keeps me isolated.From taking over my daughters' homework to jumping in with "Use Claude!" when my ex-wife mentioned her resume, I'm realizing that being smart doesn't mean you have to fix everything. Sometimes helping means shutting up and just listening.And I can't fix this pattern by fixing it. That's the irony.If you're someone who tries to control outcomes because sitting with uncertainty feels impossible, this one's for you.