Episode 18: The Audit Effect
from Chaos to Context Hosted by Jody Passanisi
Context matters, and so does knowing when you're not actually being helpful. You walk into your kid's room just to say hi, and somehow they're already defensive. I call it the Audit Effect: after enough experiences of parents noticing what needs to be fixed, kids start to assume every visit is an evaluation, even when it isn't. Announcing your purpose helps, but the harder part is that to actually not audit, you have to not audit, on purpose. In this episode, we get into why that's so hard for those of us who keep an open loop on every unfinished task, and how treating a kid's growing ownership of a chore as the real project makes it possible to walk in and just be with them.
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