Episode 181: Would you change places with them?

from PsycHacks · host Orion Taraban

I occasionally work with clients who are distressed over the apparently unfair treatment they have received from their parents relative to their siblings, who they believe have been given everything on a silver platter. A simple tactic I've developed to respond to envy (especially in the context of siblings) is to ask: would you change places with them? In ten years, I've yet to meet someone who would. And if you believe the situation is unfair, but you wouldn't switch places with the other party, then you might be in a more advantageous position than you realize. #siblings #envy #fairness

What this episode covers

I occasionally work with clients who are distressed over the apparently unfair treatment they have received from their parents relative to their siblings, who they believe have been given everything on a silver platter. A simple tactic I’ve developed to respond to envy (especially in the context of siblings) is to ask: would you change places with them? In ten years, I’ve yet to meet someone who would. And if you believe the situation is unfair, but you wouldn’t switch places with the other party, then you might be in a more advantageous position than you realize. #siblings #envy #fairness