Episode 190: Become the Dream: Why Your Goals Are Waiting on You to Change

Episode 190: Become the Dream: Why Your Goals Are Waiting on You to Change Episode Summary In this episode of Your Inner Advocate, Kimen challenges the way most people think about success. The real reason you're not getting what you want isn't a lack of goals, motivation, or vision boards — it's that you're trying to live a life that belongs to a person you haven't become yet.   Kimen breaks down why identity is permanent while goals are temporary, and introduces the Be → Do → Have framework: first become the person, then do the actions, and finally have the results. He shares personal stories — discovering his dyslexia at 26, grinding his way to the honor roll through sheer work ethic, and the moment he stopped trying to be everyone else and fully became himself. The core message: your habits are votes for the person you're becoming. Every choice, every action, every courageous moment counts. Growth isn't adding something that doesn't exist — it's uncovering what was already there. Stop asking what you want. Start asking who you need to become.