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EPISODE · Nov 2, 2025 · 39 MIN

Episode 223: Stop Calling It Love…You're Just Abandoning Yourself

from Unf*ck Your Relationships · host Michelle Panning

In this episode of Unf*ck Your Relationships, I'm calling BS on the fluffy, feel-good version of "self-love." Because let's be real… bubble baths and affirmations don't fix years of self-abandonment. I get raw about my own story of being the "ultimate caretaker", the one holding everything together, doing the emotional labor, and calling it love. Spoiler alert: it wasn't love, it was survival. And it left me exhausted, resentful, and disconnected as hell. I break down what it really looks like to stop people-pleasing and start standing the f*ck up for yourself…even when it makes others uncomfortable. Here's what we get into: Why "acting single" in a relationship might be the healthiest move you ever make How to spot the sneaky ways you keep abandoning yourself What self-respect and emotional discipline actually look like (hint: it's not being the chill girl) The power of saying "no," sending the meal back, and owning your standards Why advocating for your needs is a flex…not a flaw How to rebuild self-trust and stop outsourcing your worth By the end, I'll remind you of one thing every woman needs to hear: No one's coming to save you, babe…you're the damn hero of your own story. It's time to stop settling, stop shrinking, and start showing up like the woman who knows exactly who she is. WORK WITH MICHELLE: Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a course for the woman who wants to go from anxious & self-abandoning in relationships to secure, confident and unf*ckwithable: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman Sign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): https://michellepanning.com/the-experience Sign up for THE AWAKENING RETREATS now before they sell out. These aren't just retreats. These are where we turn your inner chaos into GOLD: https://michellepanning.com/awakening CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

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