Episode 23 - "Say the Thing" — Kristie Melling on Pain, Resilience and the Courage to Be Honest

What does it mean to be the person who holds everything together, even when you're the one who needs holding?This week, Carolyn sits down with Kristie Melling, a Brisbane-based marketing consultant who spent most of her life as the quiet anchor for everyone around her: her friends, her partner, her clients, her team. From the outside, Kristie looked like someone who had it together. On the inside, she was managing a level of chronic pain most people couldn't imagine, and doing it without telling anyone how bad it really was.Kristie grew up in Gladstone, Queensland, in a family she describes as genuinely wonderful, entrepreneurial parents, a community-minded mum, and a tight group of childhood friends. Life felt close to idyllic. Until, at 13, she woke up one morning unable to move.What followed was years of chronic sciatic pain, undiagnosed, mismanaged, and quietly reshaping who Kristie was becoming. Bracing against physical pain taught her to brace against emotional pain, too. She became the tough girl. The protector. The one who stepped in front when someone came for her friends. The one who stayed sober so someone else didn't have to be responsible.In this episode, Kristie speaks honestly about what it felt like to finally be chosen by someone and why that feeling kept her in a difficult relationship for nearly a decade. She talks about the moment she closed her massage business in two days to move home and be with her mum, who had just been diagnosed with stage four cancer three months after Kristie gave birth to her daughter. She shares what it was like to sit with her dad on the balcony after the funeral, and what he said that she's never stopped thinking about.And she talks about burnout, the kind that sneaks up on you so slowly you don't realise how deep you are until the day it stops.Kristie's advice at the end is simple, and it's something most of us avoid every single day."Say the thing."