Episode 240 How to Sober Up, Emotionally Speaking with Dr. Andrea Vitz (Part 1)

John talks with Dr. Andrea Vitz – life and relationship coach, doctor of chiropractic with over 20 years of experience, developer of Emotional Sobriety Training, TEDx speaker, author of the book "The You You've Never Met: How to Stop Experiencing Pain and Chaos in All of Your Relationships by Sobering Up, Emotionally Speaking", entrepreneur, wife, and mom. Listen to this episode to learn more: [00:00] - Intro [01:26] - Dr. Andrea's bio [04:40] - Intoxicated identity of Dr. Andrea [05:53] - Update on John's book [07:20] - Dr. Andrea's chiropractic journey [09:00] - Overcoming emotional instability and developing emotional sobriety [16:11] - Dr. Ardeshir Mehran's perspective on depression [17:27] - Self-esteem and personal growth [19:52] - How Dr. Andrea helps people find their passion and purpose [23:00] - How John helps people discover their passion and purpose [25:07] - The role of pain, humility, and meekness in finding purpose [28:18] - Humility and stimulus as a path to growth [30:36] - What is emotional sobriety [36:19] - How to identify if we are lacking emotional sobriety [38:42] - Consistently working on your mental and emotional health [42:34] - Outro NOTABLE QUOTES: "We all have a secret detective skill where we're searching through this filter of whatever our trauma was, or conditioning, or mimicry of our past." "Our emotional state really does dictate the quality of our life, and what controls how we feel controls us. This is why marketing works." "If your emotional state dictates the quality of your life and controls you, then you would want control of your emotional state more than anything else in your world." "There's no negative thing that could happen to you that you won't get value from when you actually let it happen." "You are not depressed. You are unfinished." "You're not broken; you're totally whole. You just have some things that are blocking you." "Self-esteem is earned. Self-confidence, self-trust, and self-respect are all earned." "Your purpose is the best of what you have to help others. That's it." "If everyone is not in the right seat, then nothing is going to work. You can have amazing people on your team, and all of them in the wrong seat, and you'll never be successful." "You're gonna have to go through the absolute worst pain you've ever felt in your entire life, but when you work through that pain, purpose is on the other side of that. Purpose is always on the other side of that pain, but we have to be willing to work through it." "You wouldn't have an enemy if you were humble." "Humility is the secret to healing and to a really easy life." "You can make emotions objective; you can make them not a big deal at all. And when you do that, you're tricking your brain." BOOK MENTIONED: You Are Not Depressed, You Are Un-Finished: Use Feelings of Depression and Anxiety to Fuel a Soaring Life by Dr. Ardeshir Mehran (https://a.co/d/7Sxp61q) USEFUL RESOURCES: https://andreavitz.com/  https://liftedacademy.com/  https://tinyurl.com/LevelHeadedTalkPodcast  https://www.linkedin.com/in/andreavitz/  https://www.facebook.com/levelheadeddoc/  https://www.facebook.com/yourlevelheadeddoc  https://www.instagram.com/drandreavitz/  "The You You've Never Met: How to Stop Experiencing Pain and Chaos in All of Your Relationships by Sobering Up, Emotionally Speaking" (https://a.co/d/8VvlDQg)  "The You You've Never Met: Companion Journal" (https://a.co/d/gk0K1ZN)  CONNECT WITH JOHN Website - https://johnhulen.pro    Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/johnhulen     Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnhulen     Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnhulen     LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/johnhulen     YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLX_NchE8lisC4NL2GciIWA     EPISODE CREDITS Intro and Outro music provided by Jeff Scheetz - https://jeffscheetz.com/