Episode 25: Courtney Jean Hairstylin’ Queen — And Now We Live

In Episode 25 of Sober Disclosure, Breezy and Jimmy sit down with the unforgettable Courtney Jean Hairstylin’ Queen, who just took 15 years sober—but the road to that milestone is anything but typical. Before this sobriety stuck, Courtney was a revolving door drunk, constantly shape-shifting into whoever the world wanted her to be. Chameleon, caretaker, chaos navigator—she played every part but her own.Before recovery, Courtney never put herself first. She talks openly about how she was misunderstood by straight women, judged in early sobriety for being a lesbian, and bullied in sober living. The girls she lived with stole her peanut butter and dismantled the bike she used to get to work and meetings. But every morning, she reassembled it while blasting Biggie Smalls—because getting and staying sober was non-negotiable.Courtney was raised by her dad to be the “oldest son” to two younger brothers. Today, she carries the unimaginable weight of having lost both of them to addiction. She shares what it’s like to stay sober through that kind of grief, and how recovery gave her the emotional tools to survive it—and live beyond it.She credits her early recovery to a “bad bitch” sponsor who didn’t care if Courtney scared people, didn’t care about labels, and definitely didn’t coddle her. She made her read the Big Book daily, stay consistent, and show up even when it was uncomfortable. Courtney admits she was once a self-proclaimed “douchebag harmful little girl” who would rather hurt others than face herself—but the program taught her how to grow the hell up, get out of her anger, and learn emotional honesty.From working her first get-well job at Medieval Times with a grown-out mullet to walking through profound loss with grace, Courtney’s story is both hilariously real and devastatingly human. She also happens to be the sister of Breezy’s late ex, adding another deeply personal layer to this powerful episode.Today, she’s in her soft girl era—a place of peace, softness, and strength. This conversation is full of grit, grief, humor, and healing. It’s a reminder that the toughest people often have the biggest hearts—and that after everything, we can still choose to live.New mantra: And now we live.