Episode 27: Let’s Talk About…*Talking* About Sex

Many couples find it easier to have sex than to talk about it. In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Eudy and Dr. Alex DiGrado explore why conversations about pleasure and “what’s working” (or not) can feel so awkward—even in trusting, long-term relationships. Drawing on clinical experience and real-world examples, they focus on the “supreme courage” of saying what you actually want, hearing your partner without shutting down, and co-creating a shared language around sex. You’ll learn practical, non-cheesy ways you and your partner can move from just guessing and performing to intimacy that’s way more connected, playful, and mutually satisfying.What you’ll learn:Why the clitoris—not the vagina—is the true anatomical counterpart to the penis, and how that relates to the “orgasm gap” in heterosexual couples.How spontaneous vs. responsive desire works—and why fantasy, warm‑up, and the rest of your day can make or break sex.What LGBTQ+ and kink communities can teach all couples about talking openly about consent, roles, and desire (even if you think you’re pretty ‘vanilla’). Gentle, positive ways to give sexual feedback (and stop faking orgasms) without crushing your partner’s ego or killing the mood.Tune in if you’ve ever thought:“I don’t want to hurt my partner’s feelings, but what we’re doing just isn’t working for me.”“We flirt and crack jokes about sex, but we never actually talk about it in a real, honest way.”“What if I want to try this kinky thing, and they think I’m totally weird?”“If I need lube and a lot of time to get turned on… does that mean I’m not actually attracted to my partner?”Helpful resources:Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski, PhDCome Together by Emily Nagoski, PhDBecoming Cliterate by Laurie MintzShe Comes First by Ian KernerParents in Love: A Guide to Great Sex After Kids by Dr. Rebecca Howard EudySex After Baby Mini-CourseFind a pelvic floor PT near you at pelvicrehab.com or Pelvic Global DirectoryConnect with us:Dr. Rebecca Howard EudyWebsite: rebeccaeudy.comInstagram: @rebeccahowardeudyNewsletter: Parents in Love SubstackDr. Alexandra DiGradoWebsite: bostonpelvicpt.comInstagram: @bostonpelvicptNewsletter: Under the HoodUnder the Hood PodcastInstagram: @underthehooddocsWebsite: underthehoodpod.com