Episode #28: The Decisive Leader — When Power Turns Into Control

In this episode of The Enneagram Edge, we explore Decisive Leadership under pressure—what happens when strength, authority, and protectiveness quietly harden into over-control, reduced delegation, and an atmosphere where others comply but stop contributing.This episode is especially relevant if you resonate with type 8 energy (the Decisive Leader)—or if you’re the person who brings courage, directness, and powerful forward movement into the room, but finds yourself taking over too quickly, trusting others less under stress, or unintentionally suppressing autonomy and innovation in the people around you.What You’ll Learn in This Episode The strengths of the Decisive Leader and the gift of grounded power, courage, and protection (1:10) Why uncertainty, inefficiency, and lack of control can trigger the impulse to take over (3:52).  The leadership cost when strength no longer leaves room for collaboration, trust, and shared ownership (4:51).   The hidden fear underneath over-control: protection from weakness, vulnerability, chaos, or being exposed. (6:35)The signs that a Decisive leader is in a stress-hijack (8:27)  Two reset levers that restore empowered leadership: delegating with decision rights plus asking before directing. (9:53) The growth opportunity for Type 8 leaders: becoming powerful in a way that expands others instead of constricting them. (13:25)If you’ve ever felt yourself gripping harder under pressure, stepping in too fast, or carrying too much because it feels easier than trusting others, this episode offers both insight and practical support. You do not need to become less strong to become a better leader. You need greater awareness of when stress is turning power into control—and the willingness to create space for trust, contribution, and shared leadership.Resources & LinksThe Burnout Code Guide:Download the Burnout Code guide to shift out of chronic stress and overwhelm:https://margotzaher.com/the-burnout-code/Not sure of your Enneagram type?Take the free 10-question assessment:https://tinyurl.com/Enneagram-AssessmentDeep-Dive Enneagram Typing & IntegrationBook a private session with Margot:https://margotzaher.com/enneagram-typing-session/Let’s ConnectFollow Margot on Instagram @MargotMindsetCoachQuestions or feedback? Email: [email protected] your story: DM or email Margot with your own "Decisive Leader" experience.Thank You for Listening! Enjoyed today’s episode? Follow and leave a review to help us reach more entrepreneurs looking to unlock their Enneagram edge. I’m planning on adding bonus episodes to the feed and if you’re not following, there’s a good chance you’ll miss out.