Episode 3 Finding your Why

In this episode Ari talks about having AUD and his journey to get sober. Excerpt from What Would Buddha Say? by Barbara Ann Kipfer. "If you feel compassion while listening, anger and irritation cannot arise. Learn to listen with only one purpose; to allow the other person to express herself and find relief from her suffering. Little said is soon amended. It is only when you block the spontaneity of listening by focusing on the outcome rather than process that listening becomes stilted. Succeed in not raising your voice during a fight. Speak and act with a pure mind. When you do, happiness follows. Giving attention is one of the purest expressions of love. When you give another the gift of listening with your whole heart, separation dissolves and hurt is healed. If you make a mistake or bad decision, you can simply acknowledge it, learn what you can from it, resolve to avoid repeating it, and put it aside. Right Speech does not mean not talking about social problems, political issues, and so on. And it does not mean being passive. It's just being mindful and speaking with a compassionate mind and heart. Let words come more directly from your heart and not from autopilot. You should not assume you will see a particular person again, so you should exercise care. When speaking, make sure you say something, preferably something positive and thoughtful. You should never underestimate the power of your speech."