Episode 301 Be the Superhero of Your Story with Dr. Nelva Lee (Part 2)

John continues his conversation with Dr. Nelva Lee. In this episode they talk about the importance of pain and purpose in life, why avoiding hard moments can keep you stuck, learning from mistakes, and much more! In Part 1, they discussed the traditional model of public education and the need for new approaches to prepare the kids for real life or careers. Listen to this episode to learn more: [00:00] - Why pain is not something to fear [05:29] - The two most important days of your life [06:50] - How faith guides Dr. Nelva's decisions in leadership roles [11:32] - Respecting your audience while staying true to your beliefs [14:11] - Dr. Nelva's definition of success [14:57] - #1 daily habit [15:56] - Traits of a great leader [17:49] - Every person you meet can teach you something [21:00] - Value of learning from mistakes and failing fast [24:47] - Legacy Dr. Nelva wants to leave behind [25:32] - How she invests in her growth and marriage [27:26] - A message for husbands and wives [29:43] - Clear communication in marriage [30:32] - Best way to reach out to Dr. Nelva [31:04] - Supporting Dr. Nelva's candidacy [33:49] - Book recommendations [34:51] - Wrap-up NOTABLE QUOTES: "I have learned over the years that pain is not something I should be afraid of. I should be afraid when I don't experience pain." "If you do it right, you don't learn anything. So you have to fail, which means you tried something new, didn't do it right, and now you have the opportunity to learn. It's not a guarantee that you will, it just means the opportunity is there." "Embrace the fact that you will have failures. You will make mistakes. You just need to learn from them, turn them into learning opportunities, and pivot. If you're able to do that, you're going to be ahead of so many others." "First, lead yourself. Then you can lead others." "Our habits determine our behavior, and our behavior determines the level of influence that we will have." "We were all born as individuals. We were all born originals. We shouldn't die copies." "If you're not experiencing enough adversity, it's probably because you're just following a pre-decided path that may or may not be your path." "Gentlemen, date night is yours. You own it. You're in charge of it. Her job is to show up and look beautiful." "Ladies, if your husband is not the romantic type, it's okay to give him tips, and it's okay to help him plan it." BOOKS MENTIONED: Purpose Driven Life: What on Earth Am I Here For? by Rick Warren (https://a.co/d/hseine4) The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by R. Stephen Covey (https://a.co/d/eChA52b) Left Behind Series by Tim LaHaye and Jerry B. Jenkins (https://a.co/d/a3jw43B) The Bible (https://a.co/d/59f7I7q) USEFUL RESOURCES: https://www.drnelvalee.com/ https://www.instagram.com/dr.nelvalee/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-nelva-lee-a4a885314/ https://www.facebook.com/TBWGTR https://www.youtube.com/@DrNelvaLee/videos Stay and Fight: The Wise Woman Builds Her House (https://a.co/d/aE70YCB) Be the Superhero of Your Story (https://a.co/d/bzutXhk) A Hope and a Future: The Case for Fostering to Adopt (https://a.co/d/j87kVT8) CONNECT WITH JOHN Website - https://iamjohnhulen.com    LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/johnhulen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/johnhulen    Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnhulen    X - https://x.com/johnhulen    YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLX_NchE8lisC4NL2GciIWA    EPISODE CREDITS Intro and Outro music provided by Jeff Scheetz - https://jeffscheetz.com/