Episode 36: From Duty to Desire - True Intimacy with Dan Purcell

In this episode of The FOCUS Podcast with Taralee, I'm joined by Dan Purcell, creator of Get Your Marriage On, for a deep, honest, and faith-friendly conversation about intimacy in Christian marriages—far beyond just "improving your sex life." We talk about what real intimacy actually is: two imperfect humans learning to be emotionally and physically vulnerable, willing to truly be themselves with each other instead of performing or people-pleasing. Dan shares how his mission is to help Christian couples build the kind of inner strength, self-acceptance, and emotional safety that allows for deeper connection and a more joyful sex life. Together, we unpack: Why so many couples settle for "duty sex" and how it quietly kills passion The surprising link between self-love and how much love you'll allow yourself to give and receive in marriage What it means to "put a limit" on how much you love your spouse—and how to gently remove those limits The power of simmering (small, lingering moments of affection) and why it's easier to go from simmer to boil than from cold Why true intimacy will always feel a little risky—and how to take healthy emotional and physical risks in a safe, values-aligned way How faith, personal growth, and sexuality can actually work together instead of against each other in Christian marriages This isn't a conversation about pressure, performance, or shame. It's about becoming more whole, more honest, and more connected—to yourself, to God, and to your spouse. If your marriage has felt distant, dutiful, or stuck in old patterns around intimacy, this episode will give you hope, language, and practical insight to start shifting things—without betraying your values. Connect with Dan: Search "Get Your Marriage On" to find his app, podcast, and resources, or visit GetYourMarriageOn.com/Taralee Work with Taralee: If your marriage is in crisis or you're tired of walking on eggshells, you can learn more about coaching and the Marriage Breakthrough program at PeacefulHeartJourney.com TheFOCUSPodcastwithTaralee.com TaraleeEddington.com Don't forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with a friend who loves their marriage and wants deeper, healthier intimacy. 💛