Episode 382: The Cost of Pretending: How to Stop Being Who Others Want You to Be and Build Real Connection in Business

Episode SummaryThink being a people pleaser makes you more likable? Think again. Amber Fuhriman reveals why chameleon behavior kills real connection and tanks trust in business, plus the NLP-backed framework for knowing when flexibility is strength versus when it's abandoning yourself.Key Topics CoveredThe difference between being a chameleon as a strength versus using it as a coping mechanism to gain approvalWhy pretending to be who others want you to be prevents real connection and trust in business relationshipsHow to identify when you're performing with a mask on versus showing up authentically alignedThe identity audit: getting clear on which labels you've taken on and whether they still serve who you want to beHow to intentionally tap into different parts of yourself to serve others without abandoning your core identityNotable Quotes"This is the real danger of being who you think other people want you to be: nobody ever gets to really know who you are. And you don't ever feel like anybody knows or loves or appreciates you because frankly, you've never let them get to know you.""In a world where people will associate with and do business with people that they know, like, and trust, how do they get to know you? How do they learn to like you, and how do they decide to trust you if they don't know who you are?""I believe that doing it intentionally because we wanna connect with others so that we can serve them is a strength. I believe that doing it because we want to be loved and appreciated and accepted and we are abandoning other parts of ourselves is dangerous.""Realistically, we can only start to understand when we're performing, when we have a mask on, when we're out of alignment, if we get really clear about who it is we are and what it is that we want."Call to Action (CTA)Book a free strategy call with Amber: https://calendly.com/amberfuhriman/connection-call?month=2021-05Join the Break Your Bullsh*t Box Community: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/185xJ6KALu/Check out Amber's Speaker Reel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vPj5OBvjrr0 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.