Episode 383: You Had Me At No: How Boundaries Banish Burnout and Build Better Relationships with Sheryl Green

Episode SummarySaying yes to everything is not a virtue, it is a fast track to burnout and resentment. Amber Fuhriman sits down with boundaries expert and author Sheryl Green to break down why most people are setting boundaries wrong, what healthy boundaries actually look like in real life, and how to communicate them without blowing up your relationships.Key Topics CoveredThe two boundary extremes that wreck relationships: people pleasing (porous boundaries) and saying no to everything (rigid boundaries), and how to find the healthy middleWhy boundaries are not something you do to people, they are something you do for people, and how that mindset shift makes them easier to enforceHow to stop "yes vomiting" and evaluate commitments before they become obligations you have to lie your way out ofThe role of resentment as an early warning signal that your boundaries have been erodedWhy communicating your boundaries matters as much as setting them, and how to say no without torching a relationshipNotable QuotesSheryl Green:"Boundaries are not something you do to people. They're something you do for people. It's actually a way of protecting and strengthening a relationship.""I had one foot on a mental breakdown and one foot on a banana peel."Amber Fuhriman:"The person we have the most emotional response to is the person that is the most like us or the most like we'd like to be.""People pleasing is actually really selfish. We're people pleasing because we don't want to deal with their disappointment."Call to ActionBook a free strategy call with Amber: https://calendly.com/amberfuhriman/connection-call?month=2021-05Join the Break Your Bullsh*t Box Community: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/185xJ6KALu/Check out Amber's Speaker Reel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vPj5OBvjrr0Guest InfoBoundaries expert, speaker, and author of six books including You Had Me At No: How Setting Healthy Boundaries Helps Banish Burnout, Repair Relationships, and Savior SanityFree boundary resources and weekly blog available at her website.Contact Sheryl GreenWebsite: SherylGreenspeaks.comEmail: [email protected] Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.