Episode 4: Why Do I Keep Doing This?

You know the pattern isn't working. You KNOW you shouldn't text them back, say yes when you mean no, over-explain your decisions, spend the money, procrastinate, seek the validation, or go back to the thing you swore you were done with. And yet there you are. Doing it again. So maybe it's time to stop asking, “What's wrong with me?” In this episode of You Are Already Her, we're asking a much better question: “What is this behavior doing FOR me?” Because even our unhealthy patterns are often giving us something; relief, validation, comfort, control, connection, or protection from a feeling we don't want to sit with. I get personal about my own patterns, including the ways I've hurt others, sought validation in unhealthy ways, and had to learn the difference between understanding my behavior and excusing it. We'll also talk about why changing a pattern can actually feel WORSE before it feels better, why simply telling yourself to “stop doing it” doesn't work, and how to start catching the pattern before it takes over. And yes, you have homework again. 😂 Your Work This Week: Pick ONE pattern you want to change and get curious about what's underneath it. Because an explanation isn't an excuse. And awareness isn't the finish line. It's where you finally get the opportunity to choose differently. 🎙️ You Are Already Her with Tesse Marlar