Episode 41: Why Do We Go Back To the People That Hurt Us?

Why Do We Go Back to the People Who Hurt Us?Why would someone return to a person who abused them?It’s a question I’ve asked myself—and one I’m still trying to understand.I’ve experienced emotional abuse myself. It wasn't physical, but I learned firsthand that abuse doesn't have to leave bruises to leave scars.Now, someone close to me has found herself reconnecting with someone who previously abused her—a relationship that became so dangerous that she nearly lost her life.And watching it happen has left me scared, frustrated, and honestly... confused.So instead of simply asking, “Why doesn't she just leave?” I decided to ask a different question:What happens to someone psychologically that makes returning to an abusive relationship possible?In this episode of Un-Shuck Yourself, we explore trauma bonding, intermittent reinforcement, emotional manipulation, damaged self-worth, hope, fear, and why leaving an abusive relationship isn't always as simple as outsiders think.We'll also talk about something equally important: what friends and family can do when someone they love keeps returning to an abusive partner.Because sometimes the person being abused doesn't need another person judging them.They need someone willing to say:“I believe you. I love you. You don't deserve this. And when you're ready, I'm here.”If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence or abuse, help is available.National Domestic Violence Hotline📞 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)📱 Text START to 88788🌐 thehotline.orgRAINN – National Sexual Assault Hotline📞 1-800-656-HOPE (4673)📱 Text HOPE to 64673🌐 rainn.orgIf you are in immediate danger, call 911.Please remember that internet and phone activity can potentially be monitored by an abuser. If you believe your communications aren't private, consider contacting an advocate from a safer device or location.This isn't an episode about blaming victims.It's about understanding them.Because sometimes, before we can help someone break a cycle...we have to understand why the cycle is so damn difficult to break.Music provided by:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SWlbc-DExKE&t=541s