Episode 47: Being Your Own Best Friend with Dr. Gerald Stein Part II

In this podcast, which is episode two of a two-part series, Dr. Stein walks us through his list, How to Become Your Own Best Friend. This is one of our favorite essays from Dr. Stein which is saying a great deal given the depth and breadth of his wisdom. In last week’s episode, we covered items focused on expanding our horizons to become both interesting and interested, making mistakes, self-compassion and advocating for ourselves and not overthinking things. We continue in the vein of standing up for ourselves with do not explain, excuse or apologize because you believe someone else expects this. Dr. Stein walks us through this difficult but essential practice of being secure enough to stand our ground and also to say “no.” One of my favorite phrases is from Roshi Joan Halifix – strong back, soft front. In that vein, we move to talk about Dr. Stein’s instruction that we allow love and kindness to emanate from our beings. This one is my personal favorite because I spent years surfing in my father’s wake of goodness. When we do the work to see others around us like the grocery clerks and people we pass by, and greet them warmly, we not only change the tenor in the air, but in ourselves as well. And friends are always a benefit when we face disappointing and hard times. But Dr. Stein also explains that another way through is understanding that we’ll likely return to our set point after experiencing misfortune and unhappiness. Dr. Stein says, “overcoming hardship will require a great deal of strength and willpower but it’s known we will return to our set point.” This is a great episode full of the warm and wise advice of Dr. Stein. He proves an excellent guide past the pitfalls and into the fullness of a wonderful life. We know you’ll love it! And if you haven’t already, read Dr. Stein’s complete list including my personal favorite, #29 “Empty your being of all your power, imagination, and grit. Use it up.” Also go back and listen to the first episode of Being Your Own Best Friend. On a programming note, we will only be producing one more episode in 2023 after this one so that we can take a break for the holidays. Episode 47 show notes Dr. Gerald Stein's Blog: Dr. Gerald Stein How to Become Your Own Best Friend by Dr. Gerald Stein Other podcast episodes with Dr. Stein: Episode 46: Being Your Own Best Friend With Dr. Gerald Stein - Part I Episode 37: The Waiting Game with Dr. Gerald Stein Episode 29: Accidental Philanthropists with Dr. Gerald Stein Episode 20: The Art of the Interview with Dr. Gerald Stein Vicki’s recently released book: Surviving Sue Wynne’s book about her beloved father: Finding My Father’s Faith