Episode 5: Keeping Love Alive After Baby: Attachment Repair and Connection Strategies

What happens to love, sex, and connection when kids enter the picture? In this episode, Dr. Alex DiGrado (pelvic floor PT, Melrose, MA) interviews Dr. Rebecca Howard Eudy (sex & couples therapist, Boston) about her new book Parents in Love: A Guide to Great Sex After Kids. They unpack why couples feel like roommates in early parenthood, how to navigate late-night fights, and what it really means to “Do No Harm” when no one’s sleeping or thriving. You’ll also learn how the Notice–Own–Connect framework helps couples move from blame to repair, and how small gestures can rebuild intimacy long before you’re back in the bedroom.What You’ll LearnWhat the “Do No Harm Agreement” is and when to use itHow stress, exhaustion, and unmet expectations create conflict cycles—and how to pause before they spiralAbout rupture and repair in relationships (and why repair never happens by accident)A crash course in attachment theory and why every couple gets stuck in predictable cycles of disconnectionHow to “blame the cycle, not each other” to turn fights into opportunities for closenessTune in if you’ve ever thought:“We love each other, so why do we keep fighting about stupid stuff like the dishwasher?”“Are we broken, or just exhausted?”“How do we reconnect when there’s no time, no sleep, and no spark?”“Is it possible to repair after the baby years… and actually feel in love again?”ResourcesParents in Love: A Guide to Great Sex After Kids. by Rebecca Howard EudySecure Love by Julie MenannoThe Postpartum Essentials Virtual courseSex After Baby Mini-Course Find a pelvic floor PT: pelvicrehab.com or Pelvic Global DirectoryUnder the Hood Newsletter by Boston Pelvic PTParents in Love Newsletter by Dr. Rebecca Howard EudyConnect with Us: Dr. Rebecca Howard Eudy → rebeccaeudy.com | Instagram @rebeccahowardeudy Dr. Alex DiGrado → bostonpelvicpt.com | Instagram @bostonpelvicptJoin the Conversation If this episode helped you rethink love and connection after kids, share it with a friend or tag us:  @underthehooddocsWant more?Subscribe wherever you listen (please rate & review the show!) and visit underthehoodpod.com for show notes, transcripts, and resources.