Episode 5 The bravest thing to ask

“What is the bravest thing you've ever said? asked the boy.'Help,' said the horse.'Asking for help isn't giving up,' said the horse. 'It's refusing to give up.”― Charlie Mackesy, The Boy, the Mole, the Fox and the HorseHow to be courageous enough to ask for help when it doesn't feel safe or when life numbs you. Nienke shares about transference-countertransference and projection around asking for help as an obstacle for safety in the drama triangle.  As a perceived Do it Yourself single woman, unclarity can create blurry boundaries and unwanted consequences. It's OK to be not OK, and the bravest thing you can do is ask for help. Because listening in a non-violent way creates space to become OK again without fixing but from receiving from a neutral perspective. Then you can become courageously grateful for receiving support.  We are all responsible for how we show up in the world, to others, ánd to ourselves. With Phoenix Frequencies, Nienke van Bezooijen shines her light on what we can do to be the best versions of ourselves based on how we show up and what we are willing to learn. It isn't about showing the way with pretended positivity, it is the heart-based vulnerability-sharing options. It takes courage to rise. See what is for you. Or share with others.  Perfect doesn't exist; curiosity can be the stepping stone to broaden your perspectives. Courage to move on from the past,Trust to be with the present,Rise to create a new future. If you want to be interviewed as a phoenix, write to  heartbraincoachnienke @gmail.com