Episode 50: Finding Yourself Inside Your Life - Protect Your Joy

Send us your thoughts questions or feedback!A Soulful Mom’s WisdomProtect Your JoyOn this episode of A Soulful Mom’s Wisdom, Africa O. gets real about the cost of building something meaningful when the pace becomes unsustainable. Episode 50 is a candid, personal account of what burnout actually looks and feels like from the inside — not as a dramatic crash, but as a slow, quiet erosion of the things that matter most. This conversation sits within season seven’s theme of finding yourself inside your life, and this month’s focus on the balancing act of navigating identity while being a mom and building a wellness platform.At the heart of this episode is an important distinction: happiness and joy are not the same thing. And when you’re pouring from an empty cup — building, creating, and showing up for everyone else — it’s your joy that quietly pays the price.Theme: Finding Yourself Inside Your Life (Month 1 — The Balancing Act)This month’s conversations continue to explore what it means to hold on to yourself while holding everything else. The balancing act isn’t just about time management — it’s about recognizing when the pace of building something is working against the very values that inspired you to build it in the first place.Quote“Happiness is fleeting. But joy is not. And you cannot build something sustainable on a foundation that is costing you your joy.” — Africa O.Episode SummaryAfrica opens by drawing an important distinction between happiness and joy — two words that are often used interchangeably but represent very different experiences. Happiness is tied to moments, adrenaline, and highs. Joy is a deeper, more rooted state. When she reflects on the early seasons of building her wellness platform, she recognizes that a lot of what she was chasing was the adrenaline of creation — the excitement of launching, filming, and producing — not necessarily the sustainable joy of it.She then walks through the real, granular details of what burnout looked like in her daily life: consuming more coffee than usual, falling asleep in coffee shops (which, as she notes, is basically unheard of for her), losing quality time with her partner, and feeling too tired to even sleep. She describes a slow buildup where she was juggling her podcast, YouTube channel, one-on-one coaching, fitness classes, blogs, and all the behind-the-scenes work of marketing and research, all while being a mom with limited outside support and no nearby family.Eventually, she hit a wall. She went from always being “on” to experiencing a kind of paralysis — unable to film, unable to edit, backlog growing, motivation gone. That’s when she knew it was time for a real check-in. She began examining her cognitive function, her physical and emotional wellbeing, her wellness routines, and her family’s health as a whole. She recognized that the very tools she uses to maintain her health — journaling, meditating, exercising, reading… were the first things to go when life got too full.The episode closes with a direct, grounding takeaway: identify what is costing you your joy. Not with judgment, but with honesty. Reflect on what has brought you genuine fulfillment and ask yourself what is standing between you and that experience. And then protect it…  because if you don’t, the cost will compound over time.Episode Highlights• The important distinction between happiness (fleeting, adrenaline-driven) and joy (sustainable, rooted)• An honest look at what burnout actually felt and looked like day to day• The slow buildup: extra coffee, missed partner time, falling asleep in public, creative paralysis• The reality of building a multi-faceted wellness platform with limited support• How the first things to disappear during burnout were the very wellness practices that sustain her• The value of journaling and reflection as data, a way to track patterns over time• Examining cognitive, physical, emotional, and family functioning as part of a serious self-check-in• The realization that you cannot pour from an empty cup… especially not into a wellness platform• A practical takeaway: identify what is costing you your joy, without judgment, and protect itMake sure you explore more health & wellness insights and coaching opportunities at liveafricao.com. Stay connected for more episodes of A Soulful Mom’s Wisdom.Please be sure to rate and review the podcast. You are greatly appreciated. Thank you!Support the showMake sure you explore more health & wellness tips, as well sign up for personal coaching, by visiting my website liveafricao.com!You can also visit me on Instagram and youtube @liveafricao Please, be sure to rate and review this podcast today—it means a lot. And if you ever want to show extra love, you can always buy me a coffee.You are greatly appreciated.Thank you!