Episode 55: Blame Throwers and Party Hats | Guest Sandra Killebrew

Welcome back our guest Sandra Killebrew, a therapist specializing in high-conflict couples therapy in Seattle, WA. This episode dives into the messy, magical work of being a therapist. We unpack what happens when clients come in with chaos—blame throwers in hand—and how playfulness, props, and presence can shift the energy in the room. From adolescent therapy and couples work to private pay dilemmas and therapist boundaries, we explore the art of staying human while holding space.Topics include:The “blame thrower” metaphor and how to manage chaotic energyUsing props and playfulness to disarm resistance and build trustWorking with teens: safety, attunement, and how to not take the baitCouples therapy, contempt, and staying grounded in the stormTherapist self-awareness: when over-identifying does more harm than goodNavigating private pay vs. insurance expectationsWhat happens when clients want therapy to “fix” someone elseThe loneliness of solo practice and the beauty of professional communityEnergetic integrity: how we show up when the room feels offSend us Fan Mail Support the showHave any questions or insights about this episode? Reach out to us at [email protected]