Episode 6: Widow’s Fire, Guilt & The Great Dildo of 2023

Nobody warns you about this part of grief. The moment when, in the middle of funeral paperwork and an existential spiral, your body suddenly decides: Hey… it’s been a while. Cue full-blown panic, Catholic guilt (despite not being Catholic), and an existential crisis about whether or not the dead can see your browser history. In this hilariously raw and brutally honest episode, Danny Painter talks about Widow’s Fire—the sudden, unexpected, and often shame-inducing return of desire after loss. She dives into the science behind sex and grief, the guilt spiral that follows, and of course, The Great Dildo of 2023—a cautionary tale about why you should never use high heel inches as a measurement system. From accidental shopping disasters to the terrifying world of post-widow dating, this episode is equal parts comedy, therapy, and necessary conversation about an aspect of grief no one talks about—but everyone needs to hear. If you’ve ever felt guilty for being human after loss, this one’s for you. Follow Danny @dannypainter for more unfiltered stories and behind-the-scenes chaos. Title music by the incredible GRAAFF. This episode is for mature audiences only!