Episode 61: Desire Mismatch? Tips from a Sex Therapist with Dr. Jordan Rullo

from Uplift For Her · host Mallorie Cracroft, MD

Episode 61 - Dr. Jordan Rullo, board-certified clinical health psychologist, sex therapist, and Gottman-certified couples therapist, brings science, empathy, and clarity to a topic too often shrouded in shame and confusion. In this refreshingly honest and deeply informative episode, we dive into the complex world of sex and intimacy in long-term relationships. We unpack the difference between spontaneous and responsive desire, why desire discrepancies are normal (and solvable), and how emotional connection plays a crucial role in physical intimacy. You’ll also hear about the role of “brake pedals” and “gas pedals” in desire, what healthy intimacy looks like, how to deal with shame and performance pressure, and why communication—not candles—is the real spark you need. Whether you’re in a dry spell, feeling misunderstood, or simply want to connect better with your partner, this episode is a must-listen. Grab your partner or listen solo—just maybe not in front of little ears! Resources Mentioned: Book: Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski + workbook Workbook: Better Sex Through Mindfulness (workbook) Workbook: The Guide to Getting It On App: Dipsea (audio erotica) Website: Beducated.com (sexual health education) Connect with Dr. Rullo on her website: jordanrullo.com, and check out her Therapist training at sexualhealthsolutions.com. Thanks for listening! Work with Uplift for Her and/or learn more about our offerings at upliftforher.com. New podcast episode every Tuesday! Connect with us on Instagram and YouTube at @upliftforher. If this episode spoke to you, please take a moment to rate, review, or share it with someone who needs to hear it. Your support helps us reach more women with compassionate, evidence-based guidance on their path to wellness. Support our podcast by using any of the following links & Uplift For Her discount codes:  Amazon Storefront: https://www.amazon.com/shop/upliftforher Coconu: Use code “upliftforher” at checkout for 15% off at coconu.com Fullscript Supplement Shop: https://us.fullscript.com/welcome/mcracroft Just Ingredients: Use code “upliftforher” for 10% off at https://justingredients.us/UPLIFTFORHER LumeBox: Save $250 with our link. Click here to shop Needed: 20% of your first order with our link. Click here to shop Saalt Period Products: Click here to shop

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