Episode 66 Potent Leadership with Ruby Fremon

In this episode, John talks with Ruby Fremon - certified life coach and NLP practitioner, leadership mentor, speaker, author of the book Potent Leadership: Drop the Mask, Ignite the Real You, and Reclaim the Leader Within, host of the podcast Potent Truth, wife, and a dog mom. Listen to this episode to learn more: [03:01] - Her childhood and recovering from depression and anxiety [05:17] - Drugs, alcohol addiction, and an abusive relationship [06:54] - Why she started blogging about her experience and how it helped her [09:35] - The funny thing about pain [11:07] - About her podcast Potent Truth and what she wants from her podcast [14:17] - The magic of telling people the truth [15:34] - Why she wrote "Potent Leadership" [18:02] - Do the inner work to be a leader [20:53] - Facing trauma [23:26] - Necessary questions to become an amazing leader [24:54] - How do you know who you truly are? [28:47] - What Ruby does to improve relationships at home [32:48] - What Ruby does to take care of herself [34:47] - A social media tip for entrepreneurs [38:10] - Ruby's ideal client [41:19] - Performative leadership vs. potent leadership [44:00] - The litmus test for a potent leader NOTABLE QUOTES: "There's magic in being transparent with people." "There's been at least one cataclysmic event in a great person's life, that they had the opportunity to learn from or crumble. And that many times, it's through the pain that purpose comes." "The funny thing about pain is that it's not even for us. Many times the pain is actually for the other people that will have the opportunity to help. But it requires us not to ignore it, not to pretend it's not there. Not to work around it, but to be in the middle of it. Work through it. So we can get to the other side and be a benefit to other people. That's where the purpose comes through." "There's a level of potency that comes when you hear the truth." "What's ordinary to you is magic to others." "I will always tell them the truth. Because many times, that's the thing they're dying to hear. And all I have to do is share something that they've done that I thought has been extremely meaningful. That could be just the little bit of sunshine and water they need to blossom." "Everyone is a leader. We all have the opportunity to lead our own life." "Every time you deep dive deeper into trauma or wound or a shadow, there is another level of you that you get to meet." "It's very exhausting to pretend to be something that you're not." "We are the foundation of our lives. And then comes your relationships. And then everything builds on that. So if your relationships are really unhappy, then that's definitely going to bleed into your work." USEFUL RESOURCES: https://www.rubyfremon.com  https://potentleadership.com  https://www.facebook.com/rubyfremon  https://www.instagram.com/iamruby/   https://twitter.com/iamruby  https://www.youtube.com/iamruby  https://www.linkedin.com/in/iamruby/  https://www.rubyfremon.com/listen  CONNECT WITH JOHN Website - https://thejohnhulen.com  Clubhouse - https://www.joinclubhouse.com/@johnhulen  Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/johnhulen  Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnhulen  Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnhulen  LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/johnhulen  YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLX_NchE8lisC4NL2GciIWA  EPISODE CREDITS Intro music provided by Tony Palacios -  https://www.instagram.com/tonytonedog/  Outro music provided by Jeff Scheetz - https://jeffscheetz.com/