Episode #66 Why You Go Quiet in Relationships After 40 (Even When You Never Do Anywhere Else)

You know that feeling when a conversation ends and somewhere on the drive home you think, I should have said that.For my guest today, that kind of staying quiet went on for seventeen years. She built a career, a marriage, a family. She thought she was good at reading people. Then her husband asked for a divorce and she realized the one person she had stopped listening to was herself.If you've ever felt yourself shrinking in a relationship while staying completely yourself everywhere else, this conversation about dating after 40 is going to feel like someone finally said the quiet part out loud.✨ What's Inside This Episode:Why confident, successful women often go quiet specifically in romantic relationships, even when they speak up everywhere else in their livesThe deceptively small first step to recognizing exactly when and where you silence yourselfA simple mirror practice that helps you hear your own voice again, literallyWhy staying quiet to avoid losing someone usually means you already lost themSupport from Phaedra: You know there’s more in you. But something is still holding you back. In this free challenge, you’ll work with me one-on-one for five online sessions (up to 45 minutes each). No theory, just direct guidance to help you see where you’re holding back and what shifts when you start using your voice. This is your first step. Not perfect. But real. https://linktr.ee/LaReineCoaching🎧 Press play now to hear the full conversationYou can't make Mr. Unavailable love you, but you can choose someone who does. Love is closer than you think.This is the last episode I'm hosting. Six seasons, sixty six conversations, and I'm genuinely grateful for every single one of you who listened. I'm not going anywhere, I've just started writing instead of talking, about waking up to joy, love, and feeling at home within, wherever midlife happens to be taking you. If anything in this episode landed, especially the parts about losing your own voice without noticing, that's exactly what I'm writing about now.Come find me on Substack at https://trulyeleanor.com. This show is staying up, so come back anytime.