Episode 7: On Self Comparison and Self Compassion

In this episode of Between Two Worlds, Floby pulls back the curtain on a quiet yet universal trap: comparison. Drawing from her experiences as a mother, a career woman, and an immigrant, she explores why we constantly measure our worth against others and how looking sideways instead of inward disrupts our peace. She invites us to shift our focus from comparison to self-respect, encouraging us to run our own race at our own pace.Today, we discuss:The Trap of Comparison: How we find ourselves running races we never consciously entered, measuring our lives against criteria that do not belong to us.The Humility of Immigration: What rebuilding a life in a new country teaches us about comparison. Floby explains why comparing our entire behind-the-scenes journey to someone else's polished highlight reel is an inherently unfair equation.Self-Respect as a Shield: Why true confidence doesn't stem from external validation, but from self-respect. Learning how to admire others' success without viewing it as our own failure.A New Standard of Measurement: The importance of comparing ourselves only to who we were in the past. Asking ourselves the right questions: How have I grown? What have I learned? How have I healed?A Message to Mothers and Professionals: Letting go of the pressure of perfection in motherhood often curated online to embrace a present, loving, and real connection. Reminding career-driven women that their dignity is not attached to promotions, salaries, or external approval.Key Quote:“Self-respect says: 'I don't need to diminish myself because someone else is shining.' [...] The goal was never to become someone else. The goal was always to become yourself.”Challenge for the week:This week, change the way you measure your progress. The next time you catch yourself looking sideways to evaluate your life, pause and look inward instead. Ask yourself: “Who was I a year ago, and how have I grown since then?” Give yourself permission to bloom in your own time, under your own conditions. Get full access to Between Two Worlds at beyondtwoworlds.substack.com/subscribe