Episode 71: Burnt Out and Resentful? It Might Be Weaponized Incompetence

If you’ve ever been told, “I’m just not good at that,” when asking your partner to help around the house—this episode is for you. In this solo episode of the Love After Kids series, host Kayla Nettleton gets real about a topic that’s been buzzing online and showing up quietly in marriages everywhere: weaponized incompetence. What started as a playful reel on Instagram quickly turned into a deeper conversation when followers pointed out how common—and harmful—this dynamic really is. We’re digging into weaponized incompetence—what it looks like, why it happens (spoiler: it’s not always intentional), and how it chips away at trust and connection in relationships.In this episode, you’ll hear:What weaponized incompetence really is (and isn’t).Why it often leads to resentment and disconnection.How to start setting boundaries and having honest conversations without sparking defensiveness.Real-life examples of how this dynamic shows up in marriage.✨ Whether you’re a mom doing everything or a therapist supporting couples, this conversation is a must-listen.Helpful Links:IG Reel and TikTok mentioned in this episode:IG ReelTikTok Thank you so much for joining me this week on today's episode. Be sure to follow me on IG @therapy.with.kaylaI love hearing about your insights and aha! moments from the show. About the Podcast HostKayla Nettleton is a TX-based licensed therapist, business owner, and mom of 3.In her private practice, Kayla helps women break free from cycles of anxiety, perfectionism, and people-pleasing. Her holistic approach guides clients toward authentic, fulfilling lives by reconnecting with their intuition, setting boundaries, and building confidence.Kayla also works with couples, especially parents balancing marriage and family. She offers both traditional couples therapy and focused intensives (6 to 18 hours) to help partners address key issues like communication, trust, and intimacy.Through empathy and effective therapeutic tools, Kayla helps couples reconnect, thrive, and create healthier, more supportive relationships. Her practice transforms self-doubt and disconnection into growth, healing, and lasting change.Find Kayla on IG: @therapy.with.kaylaTikTok: therapy.with.kaylaYouTube: The Modern Mom's Roadmap to Balance PodcastEmail: [email protected] Consultation: Schedule a Free 20 minute therapy consultation here.