Episode 74 Domestic Violence Awareness with April Tribe Giauque

In today's episode, John interviews April Tribe Giauque - a survivor of Domestic Violence, author of two books, Pinpoints of Light: Escaping the Abyss of Abuse and Out of Darkness: Find, Fuel, and Live Your Light! , speaker, coach, ghostwriter, wife, and mom to nine. This is April's second time on the podcast, the first being Episode 20, where she shared her story of escaping domestic violence. Listen to this episode to learn more: [02:19] - April's backstory [05:10] - The time she faced mental health challenges [07:19] - What to do if you're in an abusive relationship [09:54] - Domestic violence beyond physical abuse [13:16] - When men are the victims of domestic violence [14:04] - The stigma attached to domestic violence [15:29] - About April's publishing house [18:22] - How getting their stories out helps victims of domestic violence [19:07] - The process of going from victim to survivor to thriver [21:41] - The notion of preventing domestic violence [23:25] - The Supporter's Toolkit [24:11] - How perfection can be a red flag for an abusive relationship [27:02] - There are more kinds of abuse than physical alone [32:06] - The importance of having truth-tellers both for the victim and the abuser [38:28] - Who to choose as a truth-teller in your life NOTABLE QUOTES: "Write a journal to express yourself. And as you write things down and reflect back, things become easier to let go." "When the forgiveness factor is there fully, the victim becomes the victor. They become the victor of their own story." "Supporters are the network that allows people to escape from domestic violence to happen." "We are all flawed." "If things are repeating. This is starting to form a pattern. We need to be asking the questions and say, Hey, these things didn't use to happen. And now they're happening? How can I help you? Do you need help? What's going on?" "It is important to have truth-tellers in our lives, not only for the one who is being abused but also for the one who's doing the abuse. If you're the one that's doing the abuse and if you have the right truth-tellers in your life, then there is a likelihood of you getting past that or working through that. So that's no longer a part of your life." "Truth tellers are the change agents." "The inherent behavior of a man is to help others. And unfortunately, it's been dismissed in our society." "Be really careful about who you choose to have as a truth-teller in your life. Because it is not what they say it is how they say it. Find truth-tellers that will tell you the truth with love." "A bad truth-teller is the one who doesn't love you. She/he's not helping you or serving you." USEFUL RESOURCES: https://www.apriltribegiauque.com/  https://tinyurl.com/BeaconOfLightPodcast  https://www.instagram.com/aprilgiauque  https://www.facebook.com/april.giauque  https://twitter.com/TribeApril  https://www.linkedin.com/in/april-tribe-giauque-msed-455578145  https://tinyurl.com/PinpointsOfLightBook  https://tinyurl.com/OutOfDarknessBookATG  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCIHWTfL9q2jawYGqN6W1yOg CONNECT WITH JOHN Website - https://thejohnhulen.com  Clubhouse - https://www.joinclubhouse.com/@johnhulen  Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/johnhulen  Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnhulen  Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnhulen  LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/johnhulen  YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLX_NchE8lisC4NL2GciIWA  EPISODE CREDITS Intro music provided by Tony Palacios - https://www.instagram.com/tonytonedog/  Outro music provided by Jeff Scheetz - https://jeffscheetz.com/