Episode #77 Why You Don’t Want Sex (And It’s Not What You Think)

Sex in long-term relationships can change — especially for women navigating motherhood, work, and the mental load. If sex feels pressured, inconsistent, or harder to access than it used to, this episode is for you. In this conversation, Landy Peek sits down with SkyeBlu Cutchie, Empowered Intimacy Mentor and Certified Relationship, Intimacy, and Sex Therapist, to explore why desire shifts over time — and how couples can rebuild intimacy, safety, and pleasure without forcing it. This episode unpacks the difference between spontaneous desire and responsive desire, how pressure impacts arousal, and why emotional and nervous system safety are essential for fulfilling sex in long-term relationships. In This Episode, We Discuss: Why sex can start to feel like an obligation in marriage The difference between spontaneous desire and responsive desire (and why most women experience responsive desire) How pressure and expectation quietly reduce sexual desire What “non-demand touch” is and how it restores connection How to talk about sex without triggering defensiveness Why consent with yourself matters just as much as consent with your partner How to create safety so intimacy feels playful again Why sex is about connection and pleasure — not performance or obligation Who This Episode Is For This episode is especially relevant for: Women in long-term relationships or marriage Moms navigating mental load and emotional labor Couples struggling with mismatched libido Women who feel disconnected from sexual desire Anyone wanting healthier communication around sex and intimacy Resources & Links The Pleasure Posse – SkyeBlu Cutchie’s intimacy membership for women👉 Join Here Connect with SkyeBlu Cutchie@skyebluc on [email protected] on IGwww.intimacywithblu.com About SkyeBlu Cutchie SkyeBlu Cutchie is an Empowered Intimacy Mentor and Certified Relationship, Intimacy, and Sex Therapist with over eight years of experience helping couples and women reclaim sexual confidence, pleasure, and communication in long-term relationships. Her work focuses on responsive desire, consent, non-demand touch, and building intimacy that feels safe and mutually fulfilling. If this episode resonated, share it with a partner or friend. Conversations about sex, desire, and intimacy become powerful when we normalize them. Stress, Rewritten – A private audio experience designed to shift your body’s response to stress so connection doesn’t feel like pressure👉 Join Here