Episode 85 The Cardboard Box and the Cat House

When we moved from our farm in Indiana to the suburbs of San Antonio, I was certain my days of taking in stray cats were over. I was wrong. A tiny yellow feral cat showed up on our porch… and eventually brought her kittens with her. What started as feeding an undernourished mama turned into a winter lesson I didn’t see coming. I ordered a warm, insulated two-story cat house. They chose a cardboard box. And that’s when it hit me: What I thought they needed was different from what they wanted. In this episode, we explore how often this dynamic plays out in our relationships — especially with young adult (and not-so-young adult) kids. We think we know the “better” option.We believe we’re offering wisdom.But underneath it all, we’re often clinging to preference. Inside this episode: The difference between preserving relationship and preserving preference• Why disagreement triggers anxiety (and what to do about it)• How to shift from control to influence• The developmental transition from manager to consultant with adult children• Practical tools to stay connected even when you don’t agree This is not about becoming passive.It’s about becoming intentional. Because sometimes maturity looks like letting someone choose the cardboard box — and staying close anyway. If this episode resonates, share it with a friend who may need it. And if you’re ready to strengthen your relationships without losing yourself in the process, I’d love to support you. Coaching information can be found at:www.trishastanton.com Until next time,Keep running toward the truest version of you.