Episode 88: Ewa Nowińska

Welcome to episode #88! We’re thrilled to be joined by Ewa Nowińska today.Ewa Nowińska is a psychologist specializing in ADHD, trauma, and eating disorders, with a unique perspective shaped by her lived experience in a neurodivergent family. Originally from Poland, she has lived and worked across four different countries and now practices in Sydney.Ewa's work focuses on helping adults with ADHD navigate emotional regulation, trauma healing, and eating disorders, using evidence-based methods like EMDR therapy. She also provides therapy in Spanish and Polish, making her practice accessible to diverse communities.In this episode, we explore the link between ADHD and trauma, masking, self-acceptance, and how to build emotional resilience.Welcome to the show, Ewa!QuestionsJN: When did you first realize you were neurodivergent?Grew up in a neurodivergent family but didn’t recognize her own ADHDHyperactivity and impulsivity were seen as personality traits rather than ADHD signsBegan working with ADHD assessments and recognized traits in herselfJN: What was it like growing up with undiagnosed ADHD?Encouraged to be creative at home, but criticized for being too loud & direct outsideCultural expectations in Poland added to the challenge of maskingRealized her traits stood out even among other Polish peopleJN: How did your ADHD diagnosis change things for you?Provided relief and clarity about why certain challenges existedExperienced the grief of late diagnosis, wondering how life might have been differentFaced dismissiveness from colleagues who viewed ADHD through a trauma-only lensJN: What’s the connection between ADHD and eating disorders?ADHDers often struggle with impulsivity, emotional eating & interoception (body signals)Hyperfixation on food or lack of structure can lead to disordered eating patternsEMDR therapy is useful for addressing past experiences tied to body image and food habitsJC: What are some of the biggest challenges your ADHD clients face?Rejection Sensitivity & Childhood Messages – internalizing being "too much"Masking & Burnout – trying to appear neurotypical leads to exhaustionBalancing Structure & Flexibility – learning how to create systems that workJC: What strategies help with emotional regulation?Body-based regulation – exercise, movement, and grounding techniquesExternalizing thoughts – writing down intrusive thoughts before bedCreating safe environments – surrounding yourself with people who accept you without maskingJN: How does EMDR therapy help neurodivergent individuals?Helps process past experiences of rejection, shame & traumaReduces emotional distress tied to past experiences of being misunderstoodProvides a non-verbal approach to processing trauma, which is useful for alexithymic (emotionally disconnected) individualsJN: What does your morning routine look like?6 AM wake-up – Prepares kids' lunches before heading to the gymGym session – Exercises in the morning as a non-negotiable self-care habitStarts work after breakfast with a structured but flexible approachJN: How do you wind down at night?Aiming for a 9 PM bedtime – Reads or watches something light before sleepingUses meditation & writing down thoughts if her mind is racingReminds herself that perfection isn’t necessary before going to sleepJN: Where can people connect with you?Website: https://enpsych.com.au/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/enpsych.com.au/Ebook & Resources: Available on her websiteJC: Final words for the audience?"You don’t need to fit into neurotypical expectations—find what works for you.""Healing is possible when you allow yourself to be seen and understood.”More from Focus Bear:Website: https://focusbear.ioLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/focus-bear/Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@focusbearappTwitter: https://twitter.com/focusbear1Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/focus_bear/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/focusbearapp/Podcast: https://podcast.focusbear.ioTiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@focusbearConnect with Jeremy:LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/nageljeremyEmail: [email protected] with Joey:LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/joeycorea/Newsletter: https://thepluckyjester.com/newsletter/