Episode 91 What You’re Really After (And How to Create It Yourself)

What If It’s Not the Thing… But the Feeling You’re After? ✨ Episode Summary In this episode, I take you back to a very specific moment in my childhood—when I was convinced that a pair of clogs, long hair, and painted nails would finally make me feel special. At the time, it felt so real. So true. But what I didn’t understand then—and what many of us still don’t fully see now—is this: We don’t actually want the things we’re chasing. We want how we think those things will make us feel. And when we unknowingly assign our feelings to something outside of us…we end up waiting. Waiting for the weight loss.Waiting for the relationship to change.Waiting for the circumstances to line up. In this conversation, we unpack that pattern and walk through a different way—one where you begin creating the feelings you desire from the inside out. Not by pretending.Not by forcing.But by understanding how your thoughts are shaping your emotional experience—and learning how to shift them on purpose. 🎯 What You’ll Learn Why we often chase external results (and why they don’t deliver lasting feelings)• The hidden pattern behind desires like confidence, security, and feeling “enough”• How to identify the real feeling you’re after• The difference between neutral facts and the stories we attach to them• How to begin generating emotions like confidence, calm, and self-respect on purpose• A simple daily practice to start creating the feelings you’ve been waiting on 🧠 Key Takeaway You’re not actually chasing the thing.You’re chasing the feeling you believe the thing will give you. And that feeling is more available to you than you think. 🔧 Try This Pick one feeling you’ve been waiting for—confidence, calm, connection, peace. Ask yourself:“What would I be thinking if I already felt this?” Write down a few thoughts—and practice thinking them on purpose. Not perfectly. Just consistently. 🤍 Work With Me If this episode resonated with you and you’re ready to take this work deeper, I’d love to support you. You can schedule a free coaching consultation here:Book a Call  Or join my email list for weekly tools and encouragement:Sign Up Learn your patterns. Lead your life.