Episode #94 The 13th Rabbit: Why You Explode Over “Nothing”

Have you ever snapped over something small and then wondered, Why did I react like that? The backpack on the floor.The socks no one can find.The one more question at the end of a long day. In this episode, Landy shares what training her wild Mustang yearling, Denny, is teaching her about stress, attunement, parenting, nervous system regulation, and the moment we mistake the “last thing” for the real problem. Using Warwick Schiller’s concept of the 13 rabbits, Landy explores why people — and horses — don’t usually explode out of nowhere. There are almost always subtle signals first. A turned ear. A step away. A shorter fuse. A body already carrying too much. This conversation bridges horse training, motherhood, perimenopause, emotional reactivity, and the reality that we are not the same person every day. Some days we have more capacity. Some days we are closer to our limit before the day even begins. And when we learn to work with the horse, the child, the partner, and the self we actually have today, everything changes. In This Episode Landy talks about: Why small things can trigger big reactions Warwick Schiller’s “13 rabbits” concept What Denny the Mustang revealed about stress and attunement Why behavior is often communication, not defiance The difference between agenda-driven interaction and relational awareness What “work with the horse you have today” means in real life How this applies to parenting, partnership, perimenopause, and daily overwhelm Why subtle signals matter before the big blow-up How nervous systems need real reset moments, not constant pushing through Follow our journey on IG @landy_Peek