Episode106: Low Demand Parenting: A Book Review and Real Talk for Parents

In this episode of Parent Like a Psychologist, we explore Low Demand Parenting by Amanda Diekman — a compassionate and practical approach gaining attention among parenting circles and neurodivergent communities. Drawing from Diekman’s lived experience as a late-diagnosed PDA autistic woman, pastor, parent coach, and mother of neurodivergent children, the book offers a roadmap for parents raising kids who struggle to meet typical expectations. I unpack the six-step framework Amanda outlines — from assessing and dropping demands to creating safety and building a low-demand life — and share real-world examples to make it tangible (yes, even the dreaded “put on your shoes” scenario). We’ll discuss how this approach differs from permissive parenting, the boundaries it maintains, and why connection-based parenting sits at its heart. Alongside the strengths, I also offer a reality check: what to consider if you can’t completely drop demands due to work, school, or other commitments, and the emotional resilience this approach requires from parents. You’ll hear about: How low demand parenting can lower stress and restore calm at home Practical adjustments to demands without sacrificing safety or values The difference between permissive parenting and intentional, low-demand choices Ways to work with your brain and nervous system as a parent Why professional or peer support can be key when implementing change Whether you’re a parent of a child with high anxiety, strong demand avoidance, or you simply feel like every request turns into a meltdown, this episode provides tools, perspectives, and encouragement. Take what works for your family, leave what doesn’t, and remember — parenting differently takes courage, but it can also bring relief, connection, and hope. Episode Notes & Links: Amanda Diekman’s Information: 📖 Low Demand Parenting – The Book 📸 @lowdemandamanda on Instagram Resources for Families: 🔹 Problem Solving with Your Child – Free Guide Follow me on: Instagram: @leannetranpsychologyFacebook: @Leanne TranLinked In: @leannetranpsychology   Email me: [email protected] Visit my website: www.leannetran.com.au